Means of Seeing what the eye brings

If you manage to catch a ride on an outbound boat, don’t worry about the destination (other than t’have documentation appropriate for foreign ports, if applicable). Sailboats are almost always coming from or going to other places with sailboats, where further opportunities will present themselves. If you have a bad experience, move on; don’t bad-mouth skippers or boats; it’s a smaller community than you’d think, and it might come backatacha.
If y’feel unsafe aboard a particular boat, or see something aboard that causes you concern, go ahead and ask, but be prepared to get an unsatisfactory answer. Many times, in trying conditions, green hands have compromised ship’s safety through their fear. The captain aboard a ship at sea is next to God, so you had best resign yerself to following their lead. Rarely, one will encounter a skipper who is pleasant enough in port, but turns into a drunken bullying tyrant at sea, but these are exceptions to th’rule.
This leads me t’discuss the hardships of sea service. Often i tell folks about the beauty and rewards of the sea, or of the (sometimes) great pay. Yes, it is possible to make $200+/day sailing in tropical paradise, but y’must be prepared for some hardship t’get there. I once worked 72 16-hour days in a 3-month period. I later worked 82 8-hour days in a 3-month period. Both were aboard traditional sail-training vessels; the former was for pay, the latter as a volunteer. Still, this is nothing compared to some commercial crew aboard working merchant vessels, who might work 12-16 hour days for 6 months on end.
Then, there’s the living conditions. Especially aboard sailboats, you’ll find no privacy, no real personal space, and little room for possessions. However, this can lead to some great crew bonding. Read this here for a great example. You need to be available to serve the ship 24/7, whether standing a watch or being ready to leap out of yer berth and go aloft to clear some foul at night in miserable weather.
The upshot is that you have to be prepared for some personal sacrifice and hard hard work to get the most out of what sailing has to offer. But, when all is said and done, it’s rewarding beyond anything else in my experience.

While yer doin’ yer readin’, start thinking about what sorts of boats you’d like to ship on. For a lubber, by far the best experience will come aboard a tallship, but there’s other routes. If yer near water, find a local yacht club and ask when they hold their race days through the local sailing season (there’s a summer wednesday night series in Vancouver), and see if you can get yer name on a crew list. Failing that, just show up ready to work on a race day, and start asking at every boat that looks to be heading out. If you’re truly green, don’t worry; many skippers are happy to have an extra eager and obediant hand sit on the rail (railmeat) or grind th’genny winches. Even if yer overwhelmed, just be quick and don’t ask too many questions. A nice afternoon race on a well-founded 30′-40′ boat will expose you to every possible combination tacks, jibes, sets, and take-downs than you’ll likely see in weeks of casual cruising.
On modern boats, delivery/voyaging crew are always in demand, but be wary of the “pay to crew”, which can run you $50-$200/day. “Cost sharing” is another popular way to crew, where you pay for your own food and a portion of operational expenses. Some owners set the cost-sharing amount, while others budget on the fly. If a skipper can’t give you an upfront estimate of shared costs, be skeptical; an experienced voyaging captain can tell you their daily shared crew expenses from previous voyages. Remember, y’can always spend more money than estimated, but seldom any less, so watch that bottom line. My favourite place to start looking for these jobs is This Site. The really good ones are few, but the postings there will give you a good idea of when/where the delivery work is, season to season. If you see alot of work in one area (for instance, Eastern USA to Caribbean in November), and can get to those areas, go take a look in person. Look fer ads in marinas, or boats that look ready for offshore (steering vanes, liferafts, spares lashed down everywhere, etc.) and approach the owner. The foremost qualification for delivery/voyaging crew is character, not ability. You can learn most of the skills you’ll need, but if you can’t live in a tiny space together with th’rest o’th’crew, yer sunk. Skippers will want t’know if they can get along with you before they want t’know what you’ve read or where you’ve been.
For tallships, the ASTA website is a good place to start; check the “Billet Bank”. Apply, or better yet, just show up on the dock with yer seabag packed. This is known as a “pier-head jump”, and is really the best way to get aboard. Schooners and tallships, whether daysailing harbour-cruisers or offshore sailtraining vessels tend to have notoriously fluid crewing arrangements; if they don’t need crew today, wait ’till tomorrow. If they don’t need sailin’ crew, volunteer dockside; traditional boats are undergoing endless maintenence, and extra hands for this labour are always appreciated. You’ll get to know the crew, and might just catch a berth after all. If nothing presents itself, be persistant!

i’ve been asked by a few folks how to go sailing. When i was asking these questions m’self, i seldom found th’sort of answers i was yearnin’ for. So, here is a spot of advice, from both myself and others i’ve met.
Going sailing is both simpler and more difficult than it seems. The hard part is making up your mind to actually go to sea. The simple part is doing it. However, there’s a few things a body can do to improve yer chances at a decent berth.
B’fore y’get too far along, let it be said that a little knowlege goes a long way. Do some reading, and ask around. Find a sailor and pick their brain. Get to understand what kind of sailin’ yer most wantin’ to get inter. Understand what sorts of certifications might help ye along in th’beginning, or that you might want t’get fer yerself somewhere along th’way.
The types of reading i might recommend: WoodenBoat is a great resource. Even if y’don’t have a burnin’ interest in traditional craft, this magazine carries with it a certain spirit totally lacking in the other glossies, such as Sail or Cruising World. WoodenBoat seems to tell the reader that the cost of admission is whatever labour you’ve got to put into it, not just the heft of yer wallet. Try out at least one shoe-string story of circumnavigation, like Dove by Robin Lee Graham, or Trekka: Round the World by John Guzwell. Even if it’s a stretch, try to get through a book on classic yacht design; Sensible Cruising Designs by L. Francis Herreshoff is my favourite, but anything by/about Starling Burgess, Bill Luders, Fife, etc., will serve. Traditional knowledge will serve you well, even if y’end up on plastic tubs, so equip yerself with a copy of The Marlinspike Sailor by Hervey Garrett Smith. Lastly, the simplest, most straight-for’ard primer out there is Jan Adkin’s excellent The Craft of Sail.
Don’t be too worried if you think yer knowledge is sparse; nobody expects a green hand to know a cathead from a dogbone, or a scupper from a screecher. At any rate, most masters would rather train a lubber after their own fashion, from the deck up, so t’speak.
Now, if y’think y’might want to make a career of sail, it’s worth getting some degree o’certification. Even if you go into it not knowing how far you’ll go, if there is any promise of good “sea-time” in the offing, go ahead and properly document it. In Canada, head down to the nearest Transport Canada office, slap down yer $21, passport photo, and ID to get yerself a Seafarer number and discharge book. In the USA, you’ll want to get a Merchant Mariner’s Card, or “Z-Card” from MARAD, which is a greater pain in th’ass, an’ more expensive t’boot. There’s other forms of certification and logging, through the ASA, CYA, ISPA, RYC, etc, but the above commercial cards provide more serious clout. Training from those associations is valuable (i’ve both taken and taught courses), but don’t get bogged down payin’ fer some course at a yacht club when y’could really go to sea. The exception to this is getting an STCW-95 rating. This is an international standard (Safety Training and Certification for Watchkeepers) which is oft required for work on passenger-carrying vessels. Even when not strictly required, it’s fast, easy training (a week of study) that could save your life or the lives of others. B’sides, it might give you th’edge when applying for some entry-level berth.

Tried to explain Aspergers to some friends today over Indian food at Porky’s. Only in a wierd little town like this can you buy curried dishes at a German deli. Anyways, i found it really difficult to try and explain myself. It’s like i’m taking a set of personal aspie perceptions and translating them into neurotypical english. In general, i’m coming to see that i’ve been performing a form of translation my whole life. (more…)

i’ve gotten so good at this constant translation that i often fool myself into thinking that i’m making sense. Most of the time, i can pull it off, but when i’m feeling stressed, or being reacted to in an aggressive fashion, things start to short-circuit. Everything that i percieve gets filed into little blocks in my mind; each block has a myiad network of connections to all the other blocks.
i’ve said things like, “It’s hard for me to understand the one thing that you’re trying to get at because i’m seeing all the possible points that you’re trying to get at.”, or “i can’t limit myself to one idea because i’m thinking about all of them.”. To many people i know, these statements sound very arrogant. Actually, it’s pretty much true, just the way i’ve said it. However, while i sometimes “get” connections that others miss, i usually miss the obvious. It’s like a connect-the-dots picture, where my brain is trying to connect every dot to every other dot, and the picture becomes a mass of overlapping lines instead of the kitten, clown, or whatever. i’m often left feeling that some answer is “so obvious”, when it’s not even related to the question.
i’ve been labelled as “gifted”, or variously having ADHD, OCD, or Bipolar Disorder. Friends and family have often concluded that i lacked important learned socialization skills, perhaps as a result of something in my upbringing, or early childhood stress. i’ve often been called just plain wierd.
Aspergers is the one diagnosis i’ve found that makes sense. Instead of saying that my behavior is the problem, it suggests that my behavior is the symptom of a brain that functions in a fundamentaly different fashion from that of a neurotypical person. The struggle for me now, as i research this, is to come to a place where i don’t blame the condition, or let it become an excuse for the way i come across interpersonaly. i’m still responsible for my actions, but it’s becoming important for me to identify when those actions, if found unacceptable, are the result of my very different set of perceptions.
All the information is being taken in, but i often place more or less emphasis on the wrong points, or no points at all. i’m a smart guy, and can usually muddle through, but some situations are beyond me. For instance:
i once accidentally pinched Kimber’s foot in the mechanism of a reclining chair when i leant over to hug her. The folding footrest caught her foot and really hurt her. She yelped, and i backed off, exclaiming, “What happened? i didn’t do anything!” (a typical aspie response). At first, i didn’t realize what had happened. i looked at her foot, and saw no real damage. Her toes seemed to be wiggling fine, despite the pain. i sat back down on the couch neardy, and watched her masage her foot.
Now, Kimber was (at least with me) a fairly aggressive person, while i am typicaly fairly passive. She got pretty angry at my apparent lack of concern, and the angrier she got, the more i withdrew, and that just angered her more, etc. i recall sitting there with this sense of foreboding, not knowing what to do. i hadn’t apologized. What i was perceiving was a short series of unforseeable events, which brought about a brief spasm of pain, but no real damage. The danger was gone, and there seemed no real harm done.
Compulsively honest, i couldn’t bring myself to apologise, at least not in a spontaneous human fashion. Since childhood, i’ve considered an apology something to be offered when i felt actual regret. In my mind there was no action to regret; just a chain of events. Kimber got madder and madder, and out of the information available to me, there was no “logical” solution, so i just froze. Of course, a simple and timely apology, and a more sympathetic response on my part, would have forestalled the entire outburts. But at the time, that just didn’t “fit” the conditions that i perceived. Ultimately, i felt far worse about my apparent inability to “do the right thing” than the injury that i had precipitated. Kimber wasn’t wrong, per se, in her reaction; she was just being herself. Consider this comment by Michael McCroskery:

“For example, most AS difficulties center around social competencies. A salient characteristic of young children is egocentrism—the inability to recognize that other people think and feel differently than oneself. Persons with Asperger’s Syndrome remain in this egocentric state, unable to interpret the thoughts and emotions of others, or to experience empathy. Another name given to this condition is “mind blindness”—the incapacity to visualize the mind states of others.”

Now, it’s very difficult trying to get people to understand that this isn’t just some rationalization for an inappropriate behaviour. Neither is it the product of a “flawed” brain. My IQ scores into the 130’s, and i consider myself to be a moral, sensitive person. There’s just a difference in the way i perceive and process stimuli.
Whereas a neurotypical person can “judge on the fly”, quickly summing information, my brain needs to order everything into a neat grid first, and pursue each thread between each idea. Sometimes this must occur to such an extent that the threads lead off the map, away from the situation at hand. People are sometimes confounded by unusual delays in my responses, while other times i make remarkably quick connections and beat everybody to the punch. i feel compelled to follow every line of reasoning to the end, even when not suitable to the situation. Just like right now, i must make frequent use age of analogy, both to explain things to others as well as to myself, just to order my thoughts into stricter cohesion. Verbally, i often find that i cannot speak at even a fraction of the speed of my thoughts, and my words and ideas overrun one another as i struggle to express them.
Sometimes this strange analytical process is helpful. For example, when learning to use a new piece of software, i will typically set myself to a task or operation that has me clicking on every menu and option, with no particular idea of what will happen next. However, at every turn, i’m able to store each cause-and-effect relationship, until i have a complete mental projection in place that describes to me the relationship of every command or function. I’m sometimes left with a great level of understanding, but no clear way to describe any exact function to someone else.
In interpersonal relationships, the same degree of input and sorting usually fails. People find me very off-putting at first meeting, but those who get to know me tend to like me, even if they can’t always take my company for extended periods of time. I’m often described as “very intense”. i’m seeing that my good friends are all very easy-going and compassionate. i don’t intuitively set or detect personal boundaries, but in my long-time friends, i’ve learned to recognize cataloged sets of behaviours that let me know when i’ve gone too far.
Unfortunately, there are many peple i’ve met (who i really like and love) who themselves do not have the skills and/or coping strategies to manage a relationship with me. Sometimes they have their own underlying bahavioral issues, depression, or emotional baggage, but sometimes they simply lack the patience required.
Overall, i’m seeing that my thinking is more biased towards the compartmentalization of many small pieces of (sometimes insignifigant) information, and the deep internal study of the threads between them. I have always thought that everybody thought like this, and that i was just a little more introspective, or more easily confused by the series of threads. Now i’m beginning to understand that more neurotypical thought is much more fluid and adaptable, especially on a social level.
i’ve begun applying this new knowledge, and comparing this viewpoint to that of one where i’m otherwise “normal enough, just… odd”. However, as one aspie quoted, trying to stop thinking in this fashion is like deciding to stop vomiting when you have the stomach flu; it just isn’t possible. For me, it’s not so much a realization of, “Oh, so this is how my mind works!”, because my brain has always worked this way, and it’s all i’m familiar with. It’s more a realization of the difference between my brain function and that of others, and how these subtle differences impact me and those around me.